LEARN TO LET IT GO

We all have been hurt at one time or another by the actions or words of someone we love and/or respect. Maybe it was the mate that cheated, the friend that lied, the parent that is unreliable or the sibling that betrayed a confidence. The wounds can cut deep and sometimes we hold on to feelings of resentment, anger and even vengeance. Some of us hold a grudge; we stay angry and remain affected by the actions of someone far longer than what is reasonable. But how is it unreasonable when it hurts like it does? If holding a grudge is affecting other areas in your life, then it is unreasonable and perhaps it is time to embrace some forgiveness.

Forgiving someone is never really easy, especially if the offense was painful and the offender is someone close. It is much easier to be mad than merciful. But forgiveness is essential; it is an expression of the love and sacrifice of Christ (see Colossians 3:13). God has forgiven all of our sins by the Blood of Christ on Calvary; so who are we to hold grudges against each other when God shows such mercy? We are only human, and for many of us forgiveness is easier said than done.

But dwelling on the situation only makes it worse. If being continuously upset with someone is ruining relationships with others, then it is time to forgive, and the Bible is clear about this (see Hebrews 12:15). Harboring ill-will is a killjoy to peace and happiness; and it is hard to enjoy the blessings in the present when all concentration is focused on the bitterness from a situation that has passed. Holding on to these negative feelings does not represent who we are supposed to be in Christ (see James3:14-15). We give the enemy too much room to work in our lives when we refuse to embrace forgiveness.

But do understand that forgiveness can be a process. For some of us it is easy, we forgive and we move on. But some of us have played the victim for so long that it is hard to detach ourselves from the control we have given that person or situation over our lives. But for the sake of our mental, spiritual, physical, and emotional well-being we must learn to let it go! Once we open ourselves up to the power of forgiveness, there is a sense of peace, some understanding and compassion for the pain that others are experiencing. Learning to let go may be the key to blessings that God has been waiting to bestow; so let go and let Him! 

Scripture: Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32 NIV

Prayer: Father God, please instill in each of us a renewed sense of purpose in regards to those that have wronged us. Please help us to forgive each other just as you have forgiven each of us. Open our hearts to be healed of all the wrongs inflicted upon us so that we can move forward with purpose, with love, and an unwavering faith in you and your word. Thank you for the grace and mercy that you continue to show us each and every day. In Jesus’ name, Amen!

  

Read Matthew 18:21-35 to see what Jesus said to Peter about forgiveness.